Dear brother:
I know that the second children do not write letters to our parents or our mothers, because that is only the mission of the first children (I know that last week a baby of seven months of gestation, first child, wrote through this blog to his parents and that you also did it at the time), however, we do have the obligation to write a letter to our older brothers or sisters to explain how our arrival will be.
Not writing to parents is a practical matter of assessing the cost and benefit of the action. Dad and mom already know what it is like to give birth to a baby and take care of it, because they did all this with you. It is hard for me to write a few lines, because here there is little light, the ink runs and my psychomotor skills do not give me to make the strokes too easily, so that is why nature exempts us from the second child of writing to the parents, but it forces us (morally, you know) to write to our brothers, and that is what I am going to do today.
The first thing I want to tell you is that I'm glad you answered “yes” when dad and mom asked if you wanted to have a little brother or a little sister. It is a question that seems a bit tricky to me, because you always expect illusion, smiles and a big yes from your child, but what if he says no? What if he says he doesn't want to have a brother? The decision of some parents should not depend on the answer of their child, but precisely for that reason, if a child says no and then the parents also have another baby ... Why ask?
Anyway, in your case there was no problem, because you said yes, but sometimes children respond by looking at their parents' faces and, if they almost smile and do "yes" with their heads, children simply end up saying What parents want to hear.
Well, parking this issue, I just want to explain that in a couple of months mom will start complaining that her belly is hurting and will explain to you that "I'm coming", that is, that day I will be born. Mom and dad will surely go to the hospital for me to be born there, just like you did (some parents don't do it that way, but they do it at home). The fact is that that day you will stay with the grandparents, until mom and dad call to say that you can come to meet me.
Then you will go to the hospital, you will enter the room and there you will see Dad with a tired face, but with a huge smile, which will take you in his arms and give you a few kisses at the same time that he will explain that I am already here, with mom. You will find me with her, even more tired, maybe asleep or maybe caught in her chest and dad will approach you to see me.
I warn you now, although probably the small disappointment will be the same: I will be small, very small. To you about having a little brother, you were funny because of being able to play with another child like you, to be able to run by his side and share moments, but suddenly you will realize that the little brother is incapable of doing all that. Give me time, I will grow as you have done and we will share games, joys and sorrows (and in the first years the penalties will be a few, because it will cost us to agree on many things).
You can caress me, but they will tell you that carefully, because "I am very small". You will also soon become a good helper for mom and dad, as they will do their best to integrate you into that new mom-dad-brother trio that will be created, unknown to you, but not necessarily negative, although quite necessary. It is a relationship that was also created with you, when you were little and that I will need, because, as you will see, I will demand a lot the presence of dad or mom and, above all, that of mom.
This will surely make Dad spend more time with you. I don't know how it is in every house, but I think that in general that is good news, because Dad always invents strange games (you know, of those that make mothers angry), because he makes some awesome antics and because with dad you can fly. But well ... you already know all this, I don't need to explain it to you either.
When I sleep, mom will hug you too, kiss you and talk to you a lot. All this will happen so that you see that, even though I am, they continue to love you the same, in the same way, and that they still think of you.
There will be times when you want mom and it can't be ... there will be times when you want to play making noise and it can't be ... there will be times when you want dad and it can't be, but there will be times when all this can be and That helps you see that, although many things have changed, all is not lost.
It may take a few moments, you may not get along very well. I understand, and I'm sorry, for the part that touches me, but calm, that dad and mom will understand too. There will be times when you complain, when you cry, when you behave like you haven't done for a while and it's logical, because it will be the way to show dad and mom that you still need them too much. I don't want to tell you that you always have to do it, but when you feel you need it, yes when you don't know how to explain to them that you also want them to pay attention to you, yes when you want to know how much they still love you “very, very much” .
I say you can do it, when you think it is necessary, because luckily dad and mom are not one of those who get carried away by the typical phrases of "do not pay attention to him and stop doing so", which unfortunately you will hear a few times. They will look at you with concern and they will immediately realize that you want to tell them something, that you are calling attention, not as something negative, but simply that you are making a call for those who want to receive it from “I start needing” a little containment, the occasional hug, signs that I'm still here and that you know I'm still here. Quiet, they will understand your call and help you make yourself feel loved, loved, important, one more ...
I tell you this because we will all go out to the street, sooner or later, and everyone will want to meet me, will congratulate dad and mom, ask you if you like me and things like that and finally they will ask dad and mom how you take it. They will say things like "dethroned prince", "jealous", "And how do you carry it?" And maybe even look at you with a sad face. Don't pay much attention, first, because people have little education to talk about you in front of you as if you were not and, second, because dad and mom, as you know, will do what is possible and impossible so that you continue to see that the love they feel for you will not have changed a bit with my arrival. Sometimes they will get it and sometimes not so much, but I am calm because I know you will do what we have said: "When you do not feel well, let it know ... they will understand you."
By the way, since we talk about the people on the street, tell you that you can rest easy for my safety. I will not go with anyone other than dad, mom or you. People will ask if they can take me and take me with them to their homes, as if asking if you surrender me in their possession. Quiet that will not happen. They just try… they just want… well, I don't know how to explain the intention well… I guess what they want is to show your anger, your anger at the threat of kidnapping, because that will mean that you love me very much and will please them. It's a shame, but many people keep doing it. As I have warned you, if you want to tell them “yes”, that “take it home with me”, so you will play the joke (although it explains to mom and dad what you really think, they will not be scared).
Well brother, I think I don't leave anything important. At first it can be a bit problematic because, as I said, I will need mom and dad a lot of time because I will barely know how to do anything. Little by little you will see that I learn fast and that mom and dad can share more time with you and, with more time, you will see that I will be the one who spends more time with you, although I don't know if that will be good or bad news for you, because I will want to touch your stuff. If that happens and it bothers you you will have to tell mom or dad. You can be calm, because you already know that our parents are not one of those who say "your brother is small, you have to leave his things to him". They will explain to you why I like your things so much and will ask you for help to find something that I can touch and that is not a problem or they will look for some of my toys to distract me and not touch yours.
Knowing all this I think you have already earned enough with respect to the brothers who do not receive a letter. That you know that even if we get angry and stick together, it will almost certainly happen, I love you a lot, so much, that I will look very hard on you to learn to live. I will follow you wherever you go, I will accompany you in the games even when you do not expect it and I will imitate you in many things, as forming a team, even in the things that annoy mom and dad. It will be our special relationshipOur meeting point will be those things in common that only you and I will understand, because only you and I will be brothers, others will be with us, but they will be something else, never brothers.
