Like other girls her age (10), Janiya was browsing the net, opening accounts on social networks, and established relationships with people he only knew virtually. I do not say that walking on the Internet without notions of security, without knowing self-protection, is the most appropriate, in fact, it is too risky.
We do not know if her parents had guided her in the management of her online life, ignoring the hundreds of advice that are available to everyone today; we don't know the educational style in the Jones family either (residents in Louisville / Kentucky).
What we do know is that Kevin (his father) decided to ridicule her in public (including Facebook contacts), when he learned that his daughter had an 18-year-old cyber boyfriend!
And neither short nor lazy, forced her to remember that she is still in fifth grade, putting on a shirt that indicates her age and academic year. In addition he also forced her to carry a backpack whose style she had probably abandoned about two years ago. The photos and comments generated, I was hanging around.
This is where I think I often swallow that father's! (It would have given me a shock); but I also think Do you really want to make us believe that humiliating her is the only way to make her see the inadequacy of her actions?
Of course, I had blocked the boy's contact, removed the laptop with connection from his room, had taken the smartphone, canceled the permission to connect to the library, and established computers, tablets and other relevant parental controls ... In short, it would have changed the existing rules regarding the use of technology, at least temporarily. Because what seems to show the news about it, is that it wasn't just a friendship, but they were boyfriends.
But I would have also emphasized the dialogue (or initiated it, as the case may be); Because it is not only about the consequences for children of irresponsible use of the network, it is that I (personally) would not like any grace that they violate the rights of others.
Because one thing that is lost acting so impulsively (I speak of the father) it is the confidence of the children; and in return you win in resentment. Especially when so many people through Social Networks - many of those who, as if seeing it, will not even have children even if they think they know how to educate - are giving Kevin the reason, although Janiya asked not to be exposed that way.
I don't think problems are avoided in this way, I think they are covered but they are latent. And despite that I wish that this girl does not put herself in real risk because of some other imprudence
These things happen, every day, I mean dangerous behaviors online, and it is not the first case - nor will it be the last, I fear - in which with only 10 years, I wandered alone on the Internet. They pass and they shouldn't do it, because although many times we parents shouldn't be the last ones to find out, in practice it can be that way.
In this case, Janiya could have been a victim of grooming (I say 'I could' that I do not know the intentions of her 'boyfriend'), or she could not have gone from a whore, and that she would have tired of the loving phrases (she gives me a little grima express myself like this) that the boy dedicated to him. And although they want to be older they are not, and on more than one occasion they realize on their own.
But the question is, isn't it really a golden opportunity to educate?
I update to clarify something I forgot: the girl was posing as a 15-year-old teenager, maybe that was how she generated interest in her contact.
