A student records people's reaction by telling them they are handsome: we have to work on our children's self-esteem

An 18-year-old student named Shea glover He decided to do a social experiment that he published in May of this year and that is becoming viral thanks to BoredPanda, whose intention was to know what the reaction of the people was by telling them that they are handsome (in fact he was telling them "beautiful", which we could translate as beautiful or beautiful).

First he asked if he could take a picture of them and once he started recording them he explained that what he was really doing was take pictures of the things he considered beautiful. The video is fabulous, because we can instantly see people's reaction by telling them that I considered them handsome. And not only because of that, but because many more conclusions can be drawn, including the one I tell you in the title: from now on, we have to start working on our children's self-esteem.

The Shea Glover Experiment

She explains that this was not the idea, but simply capturing the beauty of the people ... however, the fact of explaining it at the time of filming makes the curious thing not that, but the gesture, the grimace, the smile, the Shame, feeling good or feeling out of touch or even cheated:

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This is why we have to work our children's self-esteem

This phrase: "This is why we have to work on our children's self-esteem" has many possible readings. One of them is the one that emerges from the feeling we all have when watching the video that many feel that he is cheating on them, who doesn't mean it. Perhaps it is because we live in a society that gives too much importance to the physical aspect and we do not realize that a simple smile, cheerful eyes, a kind look can be enough to show that someone is beautiful, beautiful, "beautiful."

But make no mistake. We don't have to tell our children that they are the most beautiful in the world, nor that they are the best. Many people exaggerate their praises towards their children, overestimate their successes thinking that this will make them more confident in their possibilities and what they are doing is creating a personality based on a lie that in the future could turn against them in the form of frustration. Frustration to see that he is not really able to do everything he thinks he can do, to see that others achieve the same as him with the same or less effort and to see that they may not be infallible.

What we have to do is work their self-esteem from love, from love, from time with them. In reality, nothing special needs to be done, but simply treat them with respect and include them in our lives:

• That are part of our experiences: Nothing to leave them every weekend with uncles, grandmothers or friends to go out there or travel.
• Spend time with them: that they know that we dedicate part of our time in playing with them, reading stories, explaining stories, etc.
• Listen to them: feel that your opinion is important to us.
• Negotiate with them: to reach agreements, so that they learn to think.
• Let them make decisions: if we choose everything for them, they will never have the possibility of making mistakes for themselves, and without error, there is no opportunity to learn.
• Allow them to be autonomous: not doing everything, but letting them "spread out", test based on what they learn and grow.
• Tell them that we love them very much: that they know how important they are to us and how much we love them and how happy we are to have them in our lives.
• Don't put love in check: never, never, make them believe that our love depends on what they do or stop doing ... that is, nothing about "if you do not do this I will not love you" and nothing about "go home if you want, there is the door" . They must know that they do what they do, we will always love them (Although they should know that there are things that will make us dislike).

In short, we must help them work their self-esteem through love, by knowing accompanied, loved ones and part of a family in which they are one more, just as important as the rest, and not less. Only then will they face the rest of the world with confidence in themselves (or themselves) and able to look at a camera and, before the phrase "I am taking pictures of things that seem beautiful to me", smile and thank those words, returning a beautiful moment of joy and sincerity.