I love the word "vacation" because I feel it is full of possibilities. In the maternal world, however, I have noticed that there are regularly two types of feelings about them: or love them or hate them.
So what do vacations mean for mothers? But above all, What do moms really want during this time that most of us relate to rest and pleasure? I share what some of us think and we want others to know.
Two different views
As I said at the beginning, the theme "holidays" is regularly perceived in two ways by mothers: they love or hate them.
The ones that love them
From the outset I tell you that I include myself in this first group. I have always liked holidays and now that I am a mother more. I feel that it gives me more time to enjoy our children, without hurry, without schedules.
It is true that perhaps for those of us who work from home or abroad it can be somewhat complicated, but the days that we can stay in bed curled up together watching movies They are undoubtedly one of the best things about vacations when you are a mother.
Those who hate them
There is another group that thinks differently. It's not really that they consider vacations to be the worst in the world, simply their way of seeing them is different. For them it is to break the routine, to have to put aside activities or commitments and - so I have read it - to go crazy because they have the children at home.
It is true, being at home everyday with the children is exhausting, although I think a lot depends on the attitude you have before her. If you are one of those who hate or hallucinate vacations, it is best to relax, enjoy the unique things that can give you and remember that they only last a few weeks.
What do mothers really want on vacation?
Regardless of whether you belong to one group or another, the reality is that vacations are a time to spend as a family and make the most of them. Actually they are a good time to do all those things that for work, commitments or schedules we have not been able to do, such as a day in the countryside or a car trip on the weekend.
And precisely because it is a time when we can let go of the routine regularly marked by work or school, there is the possibility of making some changes and being flexible in terms of activities and responsibilities at home or during the trip.
So I share what mothers really want to do on vacation:
Enjoy our children
Without a doubt for me this is the best of the holidays. Being able to have my daughter at home all day, enjoying it and spending time together is something I love. If we travel, we will have plenty of time to do things as a family. If we stay at home, we can spend the day playing in pajamas, dancing or watching a movie that we all like.
We want take advantage and enjoy all those moments that during the time of classes we cannot have, and give opportunity for us to do different activities.
But also enjoy ourselves
In addition to enjoying our little ones, we want some time to enjoy ourselves. Who does not like to relax on vacation? Like moms many times the routine absorbs us and we can get to put aside those valuable moments that are for us, like reading a book, watching a movie that we like or just relaxing quietly.
Now that we are on vacation and there is no routine to which we should stick to the letter, We can organize with our partner or family to take care of the children or take them for a walk, while we have those moments to enjoy ourselves too.
Share moments and create memories
Surely many of us remember our holidays more than the toys they bought us when we were kids. And it is that vacations are something that stays forever in the memory of a child. Regardless of whether we travel or stay at home, for them it is to break the routine of classes and spend time with family.
Mothers want to contribute to creating memories in the memory of our children, by sharing moments together that we cannot regularly have the rest of the year.
But in addition to creating memories, we want something in particular: to appear in the photographs we take of them. In many families we also get used to being chefs, nurses, teachers and psychologists, being the official photographers, and therefore, we hardly appear in the photos.
We cede that paper to another family member Or, if your children already know how to use a camera or a mobile phone with one, we can play to take turns being the photographer of the holidays, so that we all have the opportunity to go out in the photos.
Let us rest
A few years ago Armando asked us: Mom, have you rested this vacation? as a reminder about the rest that we deserve too.
And the truth is that rest is what many of us want, not only on vacation, but all year. Of course, sometimes it is not so easy because the role of mother is not one that we decide to do one day and the other is not, it is a 24-hour work seven days a week.
But what we can do on vacation, is to take advantage and take turns so that both dad and mom can have more relaxed days. A good option is that one takes care of the children one day, that is, that everything the children need (organize the backpack for the day out, make or order the food, order the house or hotel) is the responsibility of one specific person while the other relaxes and enjoys them, and the next day we change shifts. In this way we can divide the responsibilities and enjoy the holidays with the family.
Every mother wants something different
Of course, these are the things that I desire and that I have seen that other mothers have also manifested, but each one wants or expects things other than vacations. Some may want to rest and relax at home with the family, while others will want to take a trip full of fun activities for the whole family.
What do you want from this vacation?
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