The way how and where our babies will sleep at birth is one of the first decisions we make when we become mothers and fathers. The colecho is still a bit controversial because the opinions around him tend to be very opposite.
I myself, before being a mother, I always said that I would never allow my children to sleep with us. Today, with my daughter about to turn three, I am totally pro colecho. I tell you how it was that I went from one way of thinking to the other.
The first months: the bassinet
I still remember the first time I really thought about where my baby would sleep at birth. I was pregnant, maybe mid-pregnancy, when I thought: "We have to buy a crib!", and I thought so, between worried and excited because the crib is usually one of the most expensive things for the arrival of the baby.
But as the cradle did not consider it really necessary at the beginning, we used a bassinet that a cousin gave us and my daughter spent her first months there. They were intense sleepless nights, trying to breastfeed that could never be a hundred percent successful, but that's history for another time.
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In Babies and more13 great illustrations about the colecho with which you will feel identifiedOne day, instead of sleeping my daughter in her bassinet, I laid her beside me in bed to take one of her naps during the day. As a first-time mom full of doubts, it was easier for me to just turn to see her, instead of getting out of bed to peek into the bassinet and make sure I was breathing (typical fear of a newbie mom).
As the weeks went by, it became customary to lay her next to me. So we both rested and I enjoyed as much time as possible attached to her during my short maternity leave. I never wanted to separate him.
The arrival of the cradle
The first two months passed and the naps next to me were part of the routine until I went back to work. After three months, we finally bought the happy crib because the bassinet was beginning to run out. But as usually happens when we are mothers: our plans are some and those of our children, others.
It turned out that my daughter didn't like the crib. Whenever I laid her down in the bassinet, she stayed calm in him after falling asleep in my arms. The times he woke up when he put it on were counted. In the crib, it was totally the opposite.
I slept her in my arms, placed her in the crib, and not five minutes had passed when she woke up crying. We tried many things: leave a garment of mine to feel close to me, warm the cradle a little so that I did not feel the temperature change of my arms to the cold of the mattress. I even got to put her in the crib on a night of despair in which I could not sleep. It worked. But he couldn't be doing the same thing every night, nor did he consider it safe to do.
As at that time both my husband and I were already working, the sleeplessness felt worse than the first month. We didn't rest at all because we couldn't sleep for more than half an hour. We took turns lulling her and then putting her in the crib, but she always woke up. And I had very deep in my head what so many people had told me: if you let him sleep with you, he will never leave your bed.
I looked for help on the Internet. I did not know that the colecho existed (I do not exaggerate when I say that I did not know anything about many things when I became a mother), so to my bad luck I found those places that recommend leaving the baby in the crib for longer and longer periods until he learns to fall asleep alone. We tried and it was terrible.
Neither she slept nor did we sleep. And it broke my heart to see her cry. He imagined how she should feel, alone in that immense crib with no one to warm her. They were horrible nights, but fortunately they were very few, because soon the day came when I said: stop!, and I decided that from that moment our daughter would sleep with us. Why continue to suffer all just for the advice of other people? That was when I learned one of the most important lessons about being a mother: what works for you may not work for others and vice versa.
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And from that moment, we all sleep happily and for the first time in months, we rest. Eventually I knew that what we were doing had a name: colecho. With that discovery I was able to finally read many benefits about colecho, as it helps to avoid sudden death, as well as experiences of other families who practiced it and finally I realized that the opinions of most people who did not recommend it They were only based on myths, as with many things about motherhood.
Now, almost three years after becoming a mother, I am a happy mom who is a schoolboy. Just a few months ago I shared on my Facebook page a conversation I had with my husband recently about the famous crib:
A few weeks after that conversation while we were lying down and ready to sleep, I asked him what he thought about preparing the other room for Lucia to sleep. He looked at me pretending to bother, hugged her and his answer was a simple one: "You won't take my baby away"I laughed. It was just what I wanted to hear.
Every family is different.
Of course This is just my personal experience and what worked for us, since it was what we found most convenient as a family. There will be those who sleep more comfortable using a crib and that is something that each family decides. If you are undecided you can read the articles we have in Babies and more about the school, so that if they are encouraged to practice it, they do so by taking certain precautionary measures.
And if you wonder, what happened to the crib? Well, it ended as cribs end up in most homes where colecho is practiced: a store for clothes and stuffed animals.
What do you think of colecho? Did something similar to our story happen to you?
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